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Don't always sugarcoat - but provide options

Anna S


Tip added 28/03/2017 12:15:20

As a pharmacist and only medically orientated in the family, I always find it difficult hearing test results from mom's stage 4 breast cancer and having to also translate these back into Chinese, but to still sound positive is a challenge. At first, I used to sugarcoat things, and when I attended a Dr.s appointment with mom, found out the doctor himself is sugarcoating news, when really, the truth needs to be spelled out so we can explore ALL options with full eyes open. So my tip - be honest.

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