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Vashti H

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Member since Monday, 17 November 2014

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Don't stop including us in your life!

One of the worst things when you are diagnosed with cancer is that your friends feel they can no longer speak to you about their life/their problems. We may be feeling ill or low sometimes, but we are still your friends and able to offer support and advice. Plus, it's a great distraction to us - we don't want our entire life to be about cancer! Please still involve us in your life and talk to us when you need to. Friendship is mutual!

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Vashti H

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Survival Packs...

The best gift I received before going into hospital for surgery was a bag full of items which I didn't even think about taking. My friend really showed support by getting me lip balm, gentle soap, cosy socks, and a number of lovely, lovely things to keep me occupied and comfortable. It was such a lovely gesture that I cried! Another friend who had had the same surgery brought me a bag of trashy mags, sweets, flowers and wine (obviously not to drink in hospital!) which was fab too!

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Vashti H

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Don't Assume!

Don't just assume someone is okay because they "look" okay. Cancer treatment and surgery has a lot of effects that can't be seen. I get called lazy and receive criticism for being less active, or for yawning when it's late or I'm at work - people don't seem to realise just how tired you feel after having cancer!

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Vashti H

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